What if changing your life was as simple as changing your perspective?
Think of all those things you’ve dreamed of doing, but you just haven’t done them yet.
Maybe for you, it’s writing a book, or speaking from the stage, or starting your own business. Or maybe it’s changing the way you manage money, or even finding Mr. or Mrs. Right.
You want these things (okay, maybe not these things exactly, but you get the point). But there are these stories playing in your head that keep you from getting them.
“I’m not smart enough to write a book.”
“I’m not charismatic enough to speak from the stage.”
“I’d never follow through on running my own business.”
“I am terrible with money.”
Guess what? These beliefs can actually stop you from creating what you want in your life.
But don’t worry, I have good news: you can change these beliefs. And when you do, you can change your life.
That’s the topic I’m exploring with my new Web TV Show, “Flip It.”
I’d love for you to check out the first episode here:
Flip It! Can Flipping Your Perspective Get You Everything You Want?
You know those posts where someone talks about how “grateful” they are to be an entrepreneur and have the freedom and flexibility to drop everything for an emergency and have their business not miss a beat?
Yeah, they annoy me too.
They are especially annoying to me now as I begin to navigate the “new normal” and make my way back from the transition and passing of my mother.
It’s not that there isn’t some truth in what they’re saying, and I too am grateful I have systems in place and a team that can function at a very high level without me.
But, like I wrote last year about the “truth about working everywhere and anywhere” as an entrepreneur, it’s not the whole truth. Continue reading
When I was a teenager, my mom handed me a section from the newspaper.
“What’s this?” I asked.
“It’s a Mother’s Day contest,” she said.
I looked. You were supposed to write an essay honoring your mother and the top essays would not only win a prize but also be published on Mother’s Day.
I tossed the paper aside. “I don’t know what I would write,” I said.
You see, I was in my “stubborn difficult teenage brat” phase. This was also the time in my life where I would attend our high school football games and deliberately not look at the scoreboard at the end so when my mom would ask what the score was (and ask she always did because she loved her football) I would tell her I didn’t know. And she would sigh.
Sometimes I would even tell her I didn’t know if we won or lost. Just to irritate her.
But I didn’t forget she asked. I secretly read all the entries when they were published and wondered if it was possible that I could have written an essay for her. Continue reading
As I wrote about in my Monday Morning Musing, I’m getting ready to launch a big project this summer, which means the Illusion has decided to also show up (in a nutshell the Illusion is all the crap that tries and stops you when you’re taking a big leap in your business or life — basically all the crap is an Illusion keeping you from taking that big leap).
The Illusion has many faces. Not only does it show up differently for everyone, but it also can show up differently for the same person. But let me tell you how it’s showing up for me right now. It’s a combination of some health challenges and personal challenges — in other words, things that have nothing to do with business getting in the way of me working on my business.
Now, the problem is these things are real. And they need to be dealt with. So the problems themselves aren’t exactly an illusion.
What IS the Illusion is that those things are actually standing in my way to taking that big leap in my business. Continue reading
Recently I’ve been writing about some heady topics in my Morning Musings (What happens when your best isn’t good enough, Learning from Failure) and Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness. And, of course, this is causing me to realize all the places where I’m not showing up in my biz and life, and where my growth edges are.
And there’s a part of me that just wants to scream “Oh for the love of God, can’t we all be healed already?”
I mean, all of this focus on healing ourselves — is there ever a time where it’s counterproductive? Continue reading
I’ve stumbled upon another growth edge for me. (Sigh.)
This is one of those deep wounds that I really didn’t want to touch because it was so deep. And, quite honestly, I didn’t feel like dealing with the crap that would bubble up by touching it. Plus, it was a personal situation — it had absolutely nothing to do with business, so I really hated the idea of taking one of my weekends off to move though it.
Alas, your spiritual work doesn’t always show up when it’s convenient. Sometimes it shows up when it truly is the next thing you need to do. And I could just feel how this was what I needed to do to continue to take my business and life to the next level. (I have long stopped questioning how things are related and how working on my spiritual development has brought me more financial abundance — I realize it makes no sense on a practical level but yet, it works.) Continue reading
Finishing up a quiet weekend. Spent some time shopping and prepping food for a liver cleanse I’m starting tomorrow. Did laundry. Exercised. Walked my dog. Watched movies.
It’s the middle of a busy season for me. Lots of launches and other exciting client projects, along with working on my book and giving some extra love to my health.
In years past, I probably would have pushed myself. Wouldn’t have allowed myself time off to relax from a previous busy week and get ready for a new busy week. Instead I would have tried to squeeze in even more work over the weekend.
But, over the years I’ve found that there is always a price to pay. Sure, I can put in extra hours nights and weekends, but I can only do that so long until it starts to backfire. Continue reading
In the past couple of weeks I’ve gotten much more clear about the direction of my business and what I need to do to take that leap and move to the next level.
At the same time, even though most of me loves that direction, I’ve found myself oddly distracted.
My focus isn’t there. I’m more distracted than normal. I’ve had some health challenges.
In other words, Resistance appears to be rearing its ugly head.
(Sigh.) Continue reading
If you’ve been following me on Facebook, you may have noticed me talking about my new-found food allergies.
While depressing on a number of levels (not the least of which is me having something of a identity crisis — I was always the healthy one who could eat everything and now, well, not so much) I’ve now also made up my mind to start a cleanse (at least one if not multiple ones) in order to heal (which I’ve also made up my mind I’m going to do — I’m not living with these food allergies for very long).
The first one will start in a couple of weeks, but what’s coming up for me now is wondering what’s going to happen while I go through this. I’ve specifically chosen a cleanse and a mentor who doesn’t subscribe to the “get sick while you cleanse” way of thinking, but I fully expect to still have a few challenges in how I feel and/or how frustrated I get by my lack of food choices.
Which, of course, will ultimately affect my business.
<Sigh.> Continue reading
Love is in the air!
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner (and my good friend Christine Arylo’s Self-Love Day tomorrow) it seemed like a perfect time to talk about self-love and self-care.
Self-love and self-care is important for everyone, but it’s even more important when you’re doing intense personal or spiritual development work. I personally am doing a great deal of inner work right now so I can bust past my current glass ceiling. And when that’s going on, it’s important to make sure you give yourself some extra special love. Continue reading
In some ways, I’ve had it easy as an entrepreneur.
One of those ways is how my passion for writing has dominated both my life and work.
If you haven’t heard my story, I taught myself to read when I was 3 years old because I wanted to write stories so badly. I spent my early adult life looking for ways to make money with my writing, which is how I found copywriting (or writing promotional material for businesses).
So, this week on the blog, I wanted to start exploring in a deeper way what you’re selling in your business and how to make it more attractive, valuable and transformative to your ideal clients. (I started with my Monday Morning Musings.)
The problem was I found myself struggling with the angle for this column. Continue reading
Around 10 years ago, I began lifting weights.
At the time, I was beginning to get what I call “puffy.” You see, when I gain weight, I gain it all over. (It’s pretty evenly distributed.) Which is nice on one hand because I can pretty easily hide any extra weight. But, on the other hand, eventually you start looking like the Pillsbury Dough Boy (which is definitely where I was headed).
So, I hired a personal trainer and began lifting weights. And almost immediately began seeing the pounds drop off without changing my diet or anything else.
I was officially hooked. Continue reading
As you can see, this week on the blog we’re exploring goals, resolutions and plans.
And as I was getting ready to write this column, I realized something rather shocking.
I don’t have any goals for 2015.
Nothing written down. Nada. Zip.
And, what did I just encourage folks to do in my Monday Morning Musings? (Gulp.)
Okay, so now what? Continue reading
I never used to do themes for the New Year. For most of my life, I was more of a goals-kinda-gal — I would put together my goals and a plan in January … and then not look at either again until December. (Although I wouldn’t recommend this approach, oddly enough this worked better than you would think — I suspect the sheer act of writing down the goals was the secret.)
But last year I was encouraged to create a theme for the year, which I did. My theme was Abundance — Abundance in all things: money, time, creativity, projects, resources, etc.
And it worked out better than I expected. So, I decided to do it again this year.
Now, full disclosure, I wanted Abundance again. I had every intention of choosing Abundance for 2015. In fact, if I was fully honest, I think I wanted to choose abundance EVERY year (what better theme than Abundance?)
Well, my Inner Wisdom had other ideas. Continue reading
So you’ve probably noticed I’ve gone a bit dark on the blog for the past couple of months.
I actually had no intention of doing so. In fact, when I started missing posts I began the wonderful practice that has served me oh so well over the years (not) of beating myself up.
Luckily I’ve gotten to a place where I at least can start recognize I’m doing it (even if I’m not at the place where it no longer happens). Even better, I’m also at the place where I’m able even to stop beating myself up and instead just take a moment to pause, breathe, and listen.
And this is what I heard. Continue reading